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Topic History of: Time is not a great healer
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hedda |
Al Gershwin wrote:
The most powerful human trait/feeling/sensation (by far) is Guilt.
Grief gets close, but is more controllable/passing; unlike envy, for example.
With guilt - how many times have we all said:- 'how could I have said that to him/her?'
Frequently repeating words (often exactly the same) daily - and nightly....
Wise words and accurate.
Particularly saying the perception of grief changes.
Still I get a bit teary thinking of my wonderfully generous and kind father and wish I spent more time with. It's only happened in recent years.
Perhaps I now think of lost ones because I believe I I have an appointment in the near future with White Lady Funerals.  |
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Al Gershwin |
The most powerful human trait/feeling/sensation (by far) is Guilt.
Grief gets close, but is more controllable/passing; unlike envy, for example.
With guilt - how many times have we all said:- 'how could I have said that to him/her?'
Frequently repeating words (often exactly the same) daily - and nightly.... |
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Rich |
Wyot wrote:
I've discovered this year (as a relative youngster at 52!) that you can be surrounded by family and friends and still feel desolately lonely.
Thanks for all the very thoughtful comments. This comment is very accurate too.
In the immediate Christmas after my own father passed away 20 years ago at a very young age not much more than I am now, mid fifties, I chose to spend my first ever Christmas period completely alone to myself while the rest of the family went off for Christmas together to do their thing elsewhere. It was my choice. I wasn't sure whether I would regret it or not at the time. I surprised myself by actually enjoying the solitude of that Christmas and the lack of hassle, doing everything on my own terms. I made the Christmas dinner, and plated up three dinners, had one on Christmas Day, the other on Boxing Day and the other on the 27th. It was great, a nice big dinner and didn't have to make it for two days. I think I was alone for 4 days, and I didn't view it negatively.
What it also did was avoid the pain of having that empty seat around the regular family table glaring away. |
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Green Man |
Wyot wrote:
I've discovered this year (as a relative youngster at 52!) that you can be surrounded by family and friends and still feel desolately lonely.
They are company but they don't fill the void of a loving partner. |
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Green Man |
It becomes a "new normal" I miss my grandparents more than my biological parents. |
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