www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-39922364
Yes it's difficult and a demanding job/role. I care for my missus full time and I would not change it for the world.
I don't know what this woman wants all CA is the same for everyone except the Scots. Maybe she ask the relatives to claim PIP, your partner to get UC and you claim CA. No boss will pay any employee to care for someone who is ill.
No it's not a huge amount money love but it's better than nothing.
Sounds like you don't have much choice...either care for her or put her in a home
www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-39654596
ITK it's over to you.