Oh for God's sake... He was said to have turned up unannounced at her hotel room after dinner and, although he left when asked, the encounter left her feeling distressed and uncomfortable.

www.thetimes.com/article/535609b6-4223-4...991eaff5e974b65b6bf4

Ordering room service must be Hell for her.

If she felt distressed..then she was distressed and is entitled to sympathy

But will the police force aid her with therapy?

I would think in a way he may need therapy as well.

I'm not sure how the younger generation makes romantic contact these days. It's touch and go that any sort of action can be viewed as hostile.

The rules on engagement are so strict. Obviously in a work environment there are rules that protect all personnel that should be followed.

Yet my parents met during a work environment and probably there are millions who similarly met as working really occupied most of your time.

But humans are such imperfect vessels and there will always be mistakes.

I hope she is OK in the end.

hedda wrote:
If she felt distressed..then she was distressed and is entitled to sympathy

But will the police force aid her with therapy?

I would think in a way he may need therapy as well.

I'm not sure how the younger generation makes romantic contact these days. It's touch and go that any sort of action can be viewed as hostile.



I don't think she is entitled to sympathy but I agree with the spirit of your post.

If people thought less about what they think they are entitled to and more about what their obligations are, we would have a much healthier society.

If he had thought more about his obligation to not make a lone woman in a hotel room uncomfortable because he feels entitled to be able to try and get sex, and she had thought more about her obligation not to ruin a career by assuming she was at risk when his actions, in retrospect, were not threatening, despite how she felt at the time about them, then this nonsense wouldn't have happened.

But they both just put themselves at the centre of things.

Her reaction to him sending her texts and turning up at her hotel room may have been coloured by what he wrote in his texts and how shey may have replied, which isn't mentioned in the article. She may have felt threatened by whatever he wrote and by him finding out which hotel room she was in and turning up there. Women don't usually like it when men don't take no for an answer.