Will wrote:
Honey wrote:
You are saying that these people should be prosecuted for calling themselves a name in case they are offended by it?
Perhaps, for the well known highly offensive names.
Shouldn't you be taken to task for publicly referring to a lesbian colleague as a dyke?
Or maybe it's just a bit of banter....
If she specifically asked me to call her that, then no, perhaps not.
I find it offensive that I must, in law, call ever hairy rapist who only decided last Monday that they want to be a woman, a woman, when biology and common sense tells me otherwise.
But in this case, we are protecting the feelings of the rapist, (and other trans people)not me.
So, with "Derek", we are told not to call him half-caste because it offends him.
Naturally, we want to avoid offending people. In this case, we are protecting the feelings of "black" people, not me.
But for Derek, the opposite happens. He is offended by being called black, and sees it as an insult to the white side of his family, because it is of equal importance.
Why would we insult him by calling him black?
My colleague "Abiba" who prefers to be called the P word instead of what she calls "generic dismissive terms that ignore her heritage" should have the right to choose also, don't you think?
Words evolve over time. Some people like "queer, some hate it. "Coloured" is polite, then offensive, then back to being polite as long as it is twisted very slightly into "of colour".
It is not the words, but the feelings behind it that counts. All these words can be a description and not a judgement, and all the correct terms could be said in scathing tones.
It is already acceptable for black people to call themselves N and openly sing it.
How are Derek and Abiba's preferences different to that?
And nobody mentioned "banter".